Developing self-confidence is a key to success in life and love. It's not 'who you are' that holds you back, it's 'who you think you're not'. You could be a movie star, a famous inventor, or a rich entrepreneur, but if you are not confident, you will only be these things in your dreams.
Without confidence, your fears will literally cripple you. That little voice inside your head usually whispers "you can't", however, when it realizes that you're listening, it gets louder. "YOU CAN'T!" This is what holds people back from being the best they can be.
You get self confidence by learning to silence your inner critic.
If you take a look at a list of phobias, you will see "public speaking" near the top of that list.
Imagine for a second that you have this phobia, and if you do have it, even better. Imagine that you have to give a speech on a subject you know a lot about. You will be speaking in a large auditorium, on a stage, in front of 200 people you don't know.
The fear of standing in front of a crowd and giving a presentation is enough to make you crazy! The thought sends chills up and down your spine, your heart races, your palms sweat. You wonder if you are going to forget everything you're supposed to say.
On the way to the event, you're a wreck. You've prepared, you know your subject matter, but you're still nervous. Your body is in major fight or flight mode.
The reason?
Because all of those self-confidence techniques you've learned, like imagining the audience naked, or staring right over their heads, all sound a bit silly when you're ready to give your speech. You want REAL self-confidence techniques. Not a quick-fix.
Realize that you don't have to "do" anything to get self-confidence. You already have it. It's there, buried underneath your insecurities and fears.
Instead of trying to boost or "get" self-confidence, work on letting go of self-doubt. Try eliminating undesirable character traits, rather than manufacturing desirable qualities. There is no scale you have to balance. Dis-inventing works better than trying to add a false positive.
Remember, you have all of the tools to be a competent and powerful human being. You just have to go inside of yourself and discover them. In the game of life, the most important skill to develop is confidence and the biggest hindrance to developing that skill is doubting yourself.
Below you will find the top 10 ways to rid yourself of growth-stunting and unattractive self-doubt. They may seem counter-intuitive, but these are self-confidence techniques that really work! All of these self-confidence techniques are discussed in detail. Click the links to learn more.
To get self confidence you can:
Fail fast, fail often, fail forward.
Put yourself in harm's way.
Be disagreeable.
Become incredibly selfish.
End your relationships.
Act like a child.
Seduce everyone you meet.
Stop going to church.
Wage war within yourself.
Have a temper tantrum, or two.
These are simple and effective ways for you to boost or get self confidence and love yourself more. The keys are in your hands. What are you going to do with them?